I’m polyamorous and believe the concept of found family can be genuinely wonderful and essential for those with abusive families growing up. But many go into it with rose tinted glasses and don’t take into account any biases or do the work to undo any power dynamics. For example if there’s a big imbalance in income/financial resources you NEED to work to balance that and not end up taking advantage of someone dependent on you cause even well meaning people will do so unconsciously. My partner makes significantly more money than me or her other partner and tbh I could not afford to house myself on my own. So the money is pooled and split into 3 separate accounts in our polycule to avoid the possibility of abuse. It’s not perfect. If she really wanted to she could cut me off from any future money but I have savings and autonomy over the money I do have access to. I do a lot of housework but i work with the other two to spread it more evenly and minimize our labor so I don’t end up becoming the polycule maid (which has happened in past arrangements).