• prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      “Incest” in this case refers to sexual relationships between close friends in a group.

      The word “incestuous” is often used to describe when people in friend groups end up sleeping with (or even just dating, I guess) each other within the group which will almost always lead to complications.

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    5 hours ago

    Hard disagree on that one. If every group of people you are involved with is “toxic,” then it’s probably time for a long hard look in the mirror.

  • I hate to say it, but this feels like an unfortunate personal experience being overgeneralized. Friend groups can be incredible. They can also be what OP describes, and rightfully calls out given how toxic those situations are, but decrying the concept of the friend group attributes the problem far too broadly.

  • Boomer Humor Doomergod@lemmy.world
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    Having been in the poly community this is really accurate. It’s messy and complicated and you have waaaay less fun than you think.

    It’s a big reason why I avoid people now.

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      It can be messy and it can be complicated, but it really doesn’t have to be.

      I know and bunch of people including myself who are very adult about their (romantic) long-term relationships. Those people tend to work hard in themselves and their relationships, especially in the first few years though.

    • BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      12 hours ago

      Idk, my polycule is complicated enough to need a graph for explanation and we’re having a wonderful time

      Granted I keep my partners separate, as in they don’t date each other, so if a breakup happens it doesn’t cause a whole mess

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    You can love your chosen family, just don’t LOVE love your nuclear chosen family, or your first cousin chosen family members. Second counsin chosen family members should be fine, any chosen offspring should turn out fine and without any chosen malformations resulting from chosen inbreeding.