I wish I was that brave and stubborn as a child. Threatening to kick me outside or take me to the bad parts of town was one of my parents favorite fear tactics. And it worked.
I was once thrown out of class. I decided to take it literally and went outside and swinged away to my fullest. After some time it got lonely and I went back to the class. I think it was best for us all.
I wasn’t exactly brave or stubborn, I was vindictive. Once my mother got mad at me and took away my computer. I in turn took the main power breaker from the house.
Another time she got mad at me and took my car keys… I set an alarm for 3am, went outside and took her car battery. Now I know what you’re thinking “she has your keys, she’ll just use your car”, I also took my car battery. Both were carried about 1/4 mile into the woods that surrounded our home. Next day she tried to leave for work about the same time I had to start walking to the bus stop for school. Yeah… She was not happy but I got my car keys back!
Yeah my country has these pre army training camps, basically schools but they drill discipline into your head, they’re popular if you are expected to join army. But I’d send my kid just to get the spoiled shut out of him.
I am not worried about it. But I was the kid that needed discipline in life.
My kids know their limits. I parent by not being an authority figure but my being a good role model. Any time my kids are grounded. We talk a lot about why and what they could have done to avoid being grounded. Hell a couple of times my kids have argued their way out of being grounded by making me see that my punishment was more than what was required.
That being said, there is no shame in admitting when you’ve fucked up parenting and taking steps to correct it.
I was vindictive to my parents at around 12. When my parents took compute power cable because I was playing 20 hours a day. I got so mad and my AOL toxic fucking circle encouraged that behaviour. I took fuses for the entire house. That’s when I was sent to pre-army school.
Hell I had accepted my parents were villains but 3 years in the boot camp like school and a couple of years of therapy made me realise, fault lied with me and not the world.
Could they have done more early to make sure situation didn’t go so far I hid house fuse? Maybe. But they were trying. I would pretend to fall asleep, just till my parents would go to bed. I’d get up, cover the gaps in the door with blankets, and went out of my way to avoid being detected. I just fell into the toxic internet culture before my parents even knew the dangers of being online and echo chambers and all.
Had they not intervened, I would have stepped into adulthood with the toxicity.
I’m not saying every kid deserves such intervention. But comment OP taking batteries reminded me of me taking the fuse. The ‘if I lose we all lose’ narcissistic behaviour I had. It wouldn’t have been corrected without a strong intervention.
P.S. My dad had to do a year therapy of his own, because he felt so guilt of sending me away.
I wish I was that brave and stubborn as a child. Threatening to kick me outside or take me to the bad parts of town was one of my parents favorite fear tactics. And it worked.
I was once thrown out of class. I decided to take it literally and went outside and swinged away to my fullest. After some time it got lonely and I went back to the class. I think it was best for us all.
I wasn’t exactly brave or stubborn, I was vindictive. Once my mother got mad at me and took away my computer. I in turn took the main power breaker from the house.
Another time she got mad at me and took my car keys… I set an alarm for 3am, went outside and took her car battery. Now I know what you’re thinking “she has your keys, she’ll just use your car”, I also took my car battery. Both were carried about 1/4 mile into the woods that surrounded our home. Next day she tried to leave for work about the same time I had to start walking to the bus stop for school. Yeah… She was not happy but I got my car keys back!
If I were her, I would’ve sent your ass to one of those fucked up boys boot camps/living facilities in Wyoming/utah.
Were you abused or just a spoiled shit?
Mostly just spoiled and egotistical…
Yeah where I grew up if a kid did that, they’d be kicked out. If old enough to have a car, old enough to live on their own.
Yeah my country has these pre army training camps, basically schools but they drill discipline into your head, they’re popular if you are expected to join army. But I’d send my kid just to get the spoiled shut out of him.
Maybe start by being a better parent then, you won’t have to worry about it.
I am not worried about it. But I was the kid that needed discipline in life.
My kids know their limits. I parent by not being an authority figure but my being a good role model. Any time my kids are grounded. We talk a lot about why and what they could have done to avoid being grounded. Hell a couple of times my kids have argued their way out of being grounded by making me see that my punishment was more than what was required.
That being said, there is no shame in admitting when you’ve fucked up parenting and taking steps to correct it.
I was vindictive to my parents at around 12. When my parents took compute power cable because I was playing 20 hours a day. I got so mad and my AOL toxic fucking circle encouraged that behaviour. I took fuses for the entire house. That’s when I was sent to pre-army school. Hell I had accepted my parents were villains but 3 years in the boot camp like school and a couple of years of therapy made me realise, fault lied with me and not the world.
Could they have done more early to make sure situation didn’t go so far I hid house fuse? Maybe. But they were trying. I would pretend to fall asleep, just till my parents would go to bed. I’d get up, cover the gaps in the door with blankets, and went out of my way to avoid being detected. I just fell into the toxic internet culture before my parents even knew the dangers of being online and echo chambers and all.
Had they not intervened, I would have stepped into adulthood with the toxicity.
I’m not saying every kid deserves such intervention. But comment OP taking batteries reminded me of me taking the fuse. The ‘if I lose we all lose’ narcissistic behaviour I had. It wouldn’t have been corrected without a strong intervention.
P.S. My dad had to do a year therapy of his own, because he felt so guilt of sending me away.