I am not worried about it. But I was the kid that needed discipline in life.
My kids know their limits. I parent by not being an authority figure but my being a good role model. Any time my kids are grounded. We talk a lot about why and what they could have done to avoid being grounded. Hell a couple of times my kids have argued their way out of being grounded by making me see that my punishment was more than what was required.
That being said, there is no shame in admitting when you’ve fucked up parenting and taking steps to correct it.
I was vindictive to my parents at around 12. When my parents took compute power cable because I was playing 20 hours a day. I got so mad and my AOL toxic fucking circle encouraged that behaviour. I took fuses for the entire house. That’s when I was sent to pre-army school.
Hell I had accepted my parents were villains but 3 years in the boot camp like school and a couple of years of therapy made me realise, fault lied with me and not the world.
Could they have done more early to make sure situation didn’t go so far I hid house fuse? Maybe. But they were trying. I would pretend to fall asleep, just till my parents would go to bed. I’d get up, cover the gaps in the door with blankets, and went out of my way to avoid being detected. I just fell into the toxic internet culture before my parents even knew the dangers of being online and echo chambers and all.
Had they not intervened, I would have stepped into adulthood with the toxicity.
I’m not saying every kid deserves such intervention. But comment OP taking batteries reminded me of me taking the fuse. The ‘if I lose we all lose’ narcissistic behaviour I had. It wouldn’t have been corrected without a strong intervention.
P.S. My dad had to do a year therapy of his own, because he felt so guilt of sending me away.
I am not worried about it. But I was the kid that needed discipline in life.
My kids know their limits. I parent by not being an authority figure but my being a good role model. Any time my kids are grounded. We talk a lot about why and what they could have done to avoid being grounded. Hell a couple of times my kids have argued their way out of being grounded by making me see that my punishment was more than what was required.
That being said, there is no shame in admitting when you’ve fucked up parenting and taking steps to correct it.
I was vindictive to my parents at around 12. When my parents took compute power cable because I was playing 20 hours a day. I got so mad and my AOL toxic fucking circle encouraged that behaviour. I took fuses for the entire house. That’s when I was sent to pre-army school. Hell I had accepted my parents were villains but 3 years in the boot camp like school and a couple of years of therapy made me realise, fault lied with me and not the world.
Could they have done more early to make sure situation didn’t go so far I hid house fuse? Maybe. But they were trying. I would pretend to fall asleep, just till my parents would go to bed. I’d get up, cover the gaps in the door with blankets, and went out of my way to avoid being detected. I just fell into the toxic internet culture before my parents even knew the dangers of being online and echo chambers and all.
Had they not intervened, I would have stepped into adulthood with the toxicity.
I’m not saying every kid deserves such intervention. But comment OP taking batteries reminded me of me taking the fuse. The ‘if I lose we all lose’ narcissistic behaviour I had. It wouldn’t have been corrected without a strong intervention.
P.S. My dad had to do a year therapy of his own, because he felt so guilt of sending me away.