I feel this. Getting there myself. Part of the problem is that I can’t experience sexual pleasure and I have a hard time experiencing sexual attraction. But I really wish I could experience what those endorphins feel like even once! But even doing it myself, it doesn’t work that way.
To my knowledge, I don’t seem to have any physical abnormalities. I’ve been to the doc for a checkup before there. Nerves just must not be hooked up right or something.
If someone is happily asexual, then I guess it’s not a problem. Some people might feel no desire and carry on with life not feeling like they miss anything because “there’s nothing to miss”. But suffering with it or feeling deprived sucks.
Yeah it’s mostly fine for the most part. Just occasionally it gets to me. People describe it as such an immense pleasure that I wish I could experience something like that at least once in my life. Oh well.
Desire? I would say not really. Very occasionally yes and fleeting.
But more it’s like missing a sense. Image all of your friends and family talk about how amazing chocolate tastes. But you were born without a sense of taste. Because people talking about the taste of chocolate are everywhere around you and you’ll never get to know what it tastes like, it bothers you on occasion. You never crave chocolate because you can’t taste anyway, but you’d just like to know what everyone tastes sometimes.
Except replace chocolate with sex/relationships. It’s a bit more significant than chocolate because essentially all forms of media prominently feature sex/relationship. It’s ubiquitous. And many people’s sense of life purpose comes from the outcome of that (children). And man the way people describe what an orgasm is like, it sounds like freaking heroin or something. I’d like to just once be able to experience something that powerful and pleasurable. Most of the time I live with it and am unbothered, but occasionally it leaves me feeling really left out and at some times not even the same species.
Oh that’s easy dude. Everyone my entire life has told me lobster is amazing. I litereally had it last night again, but it tastes like nothing to me. It’s just kinda rubbery and unpleasant, even soaked in butter. Still I never think about lobster or desire it or wonder about it. I just don’t care. Other people are obsessed with it, and when we go otu to eat, I just order the fish, since I really like fish. And yeah, many people are assholes who tell me off that I’m ‘messed up’ for not liking lobster because it’s the greatest most tasty thing ever.
I guess I don’t get it. Media also basically tells us we all have to be rich, but I don’t feel any compulsion about being rich.
Sex is nice but you’re not missing anything. Most people who talk about sex like that are addicts and their entire life is about sex. Most folks only have a few sexual partners their entire life and sex is not a big deal for them.
True, a lot of people agonize about sex and money, but those people are miserable, you don’t want to be like them.
I feel this. Getting there myself. Part of the problem is that I can’t experience sexual pleasure and I have a hard time experiencing sexual attraction. But I really wish I could experience what those endorphins feel like even once! But even doing it myself, it doesn’t work that way.
To my knowledge, I don’t seem to have any physical abnormalities. I’ve been to the doc for a checkup before there. Nerves just must not be hooked up right or something.
That sucks. Good luck.
If someone is happily asexual, then I guess it’s not a problem. Some people might feel no desire and carry on with life not feeling like they miss anything because “there’s nothing to miss”. But suffering with it or feeling deprived sucks.
Yeah it’s mostly fine for the most part. Just occasionally it gets to me. People describe it as such an immense pleasure that I wish I could experience something like that at least once in my life. Oh well.
I’m confused, like you still desire it but you can’t experience it?
Desire? I would say not really. Very occasionally yes and fleeting.
But more it’s like missing a sense. Image all of your friends and family talk about how amazing chocolate tastes. But you were born without a sense of taste. Because people talking about the taste of chocolate are everywhere around you and you’ll never get to know what it tastes like, it bothers you on occasion. You never crave chocolate because you can’t taste anyway, but you’d just like to know what everyone tastes sometimes.
Except replace chocolate with sex/relationships. It’s a bit more significant than chocolate because essentially all forms of media prominently feature sex/relationship. It’s ubiquitous. And many people’s sense of life purpose comes from the outcome of that (children). And man the way people describe what an orgasm is like, it sounds like freaking heroin or something. I’d like to just once be able to experience something that powerful and pleasurable. Most of the time I live with it and am unbothered, but occasionally it leaves me feeling really left out and at some times not even the same species.
Oh that’s easy dude. Everyone my entire life has told me lobster is amazing. I litereally had it last night again, but it tastes like nothing to me. It’s just kinda rubbery and unpleasant, even soaked in butter. Still I never think about lobster or desire it or wonder about it. I just don’t care. Other people are obsessed with it, and when we go otu to eat, I just order the fish, since I really like fish. And yeah, many people are assholes who tell me off that I’m ‘messed up’ for not liking lobster because it’s the greatest most tasty thing ever.
I guess I don’t get it. Media also basically tells us we all have to be rich, but I don’t feel any compulsion about being rich.
Sex is nice but you’re not missing anything. Most people who talk about sex like that are addicts and their entire life is about sex. Most folks only have a few sexual partners their entire life and sex is not a big deal for them.
True, a lot of people agonize about sex and money, but those people are miserable, you don’t want to be like them.