I dont think its bad to have something to do. There is luxury in not having to do those things urgently or immediately but I personally get kinda in the dumps when I dont have anything I could be doing to progress/enrich myself, my wife, or my friends.

Abso-fuckin-lutely thats also why working so much sucks too because you dont have enough time to decompress LET ALONE any free time and its frustrating because it looks and feels like you just do nothing/have bad time management/are a slob when you’re off work and it becomes a maddening cycle