I’m interested that you call out the use of one slur in one thread, for stated reasons, and then use the word “dick” in this thread… what’s all that about then?
Good question. Dick does not have the structural or historic connotations that the other does, it is effectively removed from the gender binarh. Just like calling someone cracker is in no way similar to using the n-word.
edit: In the case you were just trying to point out hypocrisy: You should have pointed out my ableism in using words like “insane” as a derogatory. If you had done that then I would have responded along the lines of
“Hey thanks for pointing that out, I appreciate the callout. It seems to me like you are attaching some sort of moral judgement to being informed about your choice of words. This strikes me as odd, nobody expects perfection, we just expect each other to strive to do better. When someone points out a fault as you did here, then that is just a helping hand for me to better myself, just as it is when I pointed out your usage of a sexist slur.”
Yeah, I thought that might be the gist for your reasoning. Thanks for the civil reply. Hope you didn’t mind me asking…
For the record I’m more towards the original poster’s view, the daily use of insults has transcended any deep rooted sexist connotations and we now live in a glorious linguistic free for all when it comes to insulting people.
I think some words are, generally, free of previously regressive burdens, but I do not count the one you used as one of them. I struggle to think of any disparaging word about women that does not still carry an inherent core of sexism, but there is probably one out there. I do not need to find it.
I’m interested that you call out the use of one slur in one thread, for stated reasons, and then use the word “dick” in this thread… what’s all that about then?
Genuinely, am I missing something?
Good question. Dick does not have the structural or historic connotations that the other does, it is effectively removed from the gender binarh. Just like calling someone cracker is in no way similar to using the n-word.
edit: In the case you were just trying to point out hypocrisy: You should have pointed out my ableism in using words like “insane” as a derogatory. If you had done that then I would have responded along the lines of
“Hey thanks for pointing that out, I appreciate the callout. It seems to me like you are attaching some sort of moral judgement to being informed about your choice of words. This strikes me as odd, nobody expects perfection, we just expect each other to strive to do better. When someone points out a fault as you did here, then that is just a helping hand for me to better myself, just as it is when I pointed out your usage of a sexist slur.”
Yeah, I thought that might be the gist for your reasoning. Thanks for the civil reply. Hope you didn’t mind me asking…
For the record I’m more towards the original poster’s view, the daily use of insults has transcended any deep rooted sexist connotations and we now live in a glorious linguistic free for all when it comes to insulting people.
No worries, I understand the confusion.
I think some words are, generally, free of previously regressive burdens, but I do not count the one you used as one of them. I struggle to think of any disparaging word about women that does not still carry an inherent core of sexism, but there is probably one out there. I do not need to find it.